Situational Responses

By Mr Mustapha Louznadji
Inspector of National Education

How to Overcome your Low Self-Confidence

 

        Low self confidence can be a big problem in your life. It can hold you back in so many areas so that you never reach your full potential and so the low self confidence becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

 

  • Do you find yourself getting overly upset when someone criticizes you?
  • Do you avoid trying out new things?
  • Do you keep your opinions and views to yourself, especially to avoid confrontation?
  • Do you often think that you lack the ability to do something?

 

       If you have answered yes' to any of these questions, it is likely you are suffering from low self confidence. Low self confidence can cause depression, poor relationships and the inability to change.

     Low self confidence is often blamed on early childhood events. Lack of parental support or encouragement and constant criticism are often cited as key causes of low self confidence.

     However, your low self confidence cannot be blamed solely on your environment. You must take responsibility for your part and take steps to overcome your low self confidence. Act confident.

       Often the fastest way to improve your confidence level is by simply acting confident. Groom yourself carefully, dress appropriately and carry yourself with excellent posture. These simple things will actually make you feel more confident over time.

   1. Pat yourself on the back - If you achieve a success, don't let it go on noticed. Celebrate your success, no matter how small they seem. Give yourself a pat on the back and reward your success.

   2. Surround yourself with positive people - One of the worse things a person with low confidence can do is surround themselves with negative people. Negative people typically have low confidence themselves, and even if they don't, listening to negative comments will do nothing but bring you down. Find positive people to put your life in perspective.

   3. Realize you are the best friend you will every have - Don't treat yourself harshly or poorly. Learn to treat yourself with the respect you deserve. You are person of worth and value, a person that is deserving of love. Compliment yourself often. It will change the way you look at yourself and improve your self confidence.

   4. Be prepared - Any time you are required to do something that you are not confident about, make sure you do it. Get yourself ready, equipped with the knowledge you will need in order to complete the task well. Make sure you have all the needed tools at your disposal and you should feel much more confident about tackling the task.

   5. Overcome this fear of embarrassment and failure; ask yourself what really is the worse thing that can happen to you if you fail in your task. Rarely will it be something from which you can recover. Once you can see that failing at a task is not going to cause you serious problems, you should be able to tackle the task more confidently.

    Low self confidence is a problem that many people have to deal with. It is also a problem that can be overcome.

    Becoming a person with high self confidence is not an easy thing, but it is possible. It will take some time and all lot of effort on your part, but it will be time well spent as you become a confident person who is ready to face the challenges of life.

Peter Murphy (Adapted)